similarminds.com| similarminds.com | |
MOTIV Personality Trait Descriptions
Interpersonal (Othercentric)
|
High scoring Interpersonal testimonials Low scoring Interpersonal testimonials |
|
Growing up, everything my parents did was in their own self interest, without much consideration for how it would affect my sisters and I at home and in our small town. They were extremely unhappy people and I promised myself to never be anything like them. M-50 O-100 T-88 I-94 V-61
I feel best when I can help others. Compassion, generosity are personal values and religious tenets. May also stem from low self esteem. Helping others and receiving positive feedback helps you feel better about yourself. M-44 O-55 T-72 I-83 V-61 I do things for other people because I'm always afraid that i'll upset someone. I want everyone else to be happy because i know what it's like to be sad, and i would want someone to do the same for me (although nobody ever really did.) M-77 O-77 T-77 I-100 V-16 I feel inadequate, all the time, unless I feel that I am a (positive) asset to whomever or whatever I'm around, I feel awful. I need to feel/be constructive, otherwise I become self destructive. M-83 O-66 T-100 I-100 V-33 i am like that because it is the only way i can justify the space i take up. M-66 O-88 T-55 I-88 V-55 I am super giving and so much so that I Have no home anymore. I gave a home to people who took advantage of me and got me evicted. M-22 O-44 T-88 I-100 V-11 When I was very young I saw an old woman on the beach having a panic attach/heart attach, and stood by her side until the paramedics came. I was determined to help her/distract her, and I wanted her to be okay. I'm unsure why - it was my instinct, and still is to this day. M-72 O-55 T-50 I-94 V-83 I think the Othercentricism comes from my strong relation to being raised Catholic and being educated for 12 years in convent operated schools. Our motto in my high school was Serviam--I Serve. I am also the oldest daughter of 3 and took care of my Hungarian grandmother for about 2.5 years prior to her death at which time I was 12. Thereafter I was the daytime and summer time caregiver to my younger sisters. M-27 O-44 T-38 I-66 V-61 I consider myself a giving person and making other people happy genuinely makes me happy. M-72 O-61 T-50 I-77 V-44 I won't change anything, but I feel like my existence in earth is to serve others. I'm going to law enforcement to help people who need justice. M-22 O-66 T-44 I-100 V-72 I am studying speech-language pathology. I originally chose to study this for the purpose of helping those who struggle, or fail to communicate with others. In a school setting, this generally revolves around children with disabilities, whether that is autism or simple stutters. In a clinical setting, this can range from severe mental retardation, to patients who have had brain injuries, or have gone through a stroke which has affected some part of their mind. As for life outside of work/school, I highly value consideration for others and practice it often. M-55 O-55 T-72 I-83 V-11 Yes, I agree my personality is Othercentric. This is mainly because, I feel happy when I make others happy. Even like a small incident to make a child smile, makes me feel so happy. My contentment lies in making others happy and serve the persons who are needy (I am doing this in plenty). M-0 O-100 T-100 I-100 V-100 I am Othercentric, uh, for a few potential reasons; Childhood involved high responsibility and accountability for well being of siblings and self (obligation, habit, associating other's happiness with personal value?); high levels of guilt and related emotions in day to day life (spend time validating "positive" aspects of self through pleasing people and thus praise, external validation); external validation allows continued lack of self-confidence and identity? Pros - people outside your situation think you're a champ. people inside your situation think you're a champ. Cons - people take advantage, thinking becomes warped as you attempt to remain in the helping role but are not stupid enough to not see that you are being taken advantage of, cognitive dissonance. Even people who don't take advantage become resentful of you because what was helpful can become a lifestyle that seems interfering and obnoxious but the person being helped feels that expressing this is wrong because you are helpful (thus good intentions) but they hate you for being helpful, but you are annoying...circular Also you then get caught up in assuming their dislike of your behaviour is a dislike of you because the positive connotations in being othercentric (ie/ seen as selfless, giving, kind etc.) make the behaviour seem infallible. M-72 O-88 T-94 I-94 V-38 think I'm so othercentric because I have a need to 'do what is right', wherever that need comes from. But also I feel that life is unfulfilling when it's focused too inwardly, like we have a duty as fellow people to care for each other. I don't think it's entirely innate though, I was pretty selfish as a child, but I always felt guilty over it, so there's certainly some kind of innate thing going on there. Actually also it's probably at a very base level a sort of moral superiority thing. Even if no one else knows you did it, you immediately feel a 'better being'. Pros, well, I'm happier in myself even if people take advantage, because I know I personally am doing what is right, and what is for the greater good, it isn't at the expense of myself because other people's happiness causes my own. Cons, I think for some people they can forget about their own needs, but for me it can't be a guilt complex over 'not doing enough for everything in existence... I think for some it may also result in a superiority complex, setting yourself more and more levels of moral greatness for whatever personal reasons you need that reassurance. Perhaps it's sometimes a result of childhood experiences, a need to be good, to prove something, to be better than someone in your past. Others I think just have huge weights of guilt that they try to alleviate through good works. I'm just speculating all this though. M-0 O-83 T-44 I-100 V-38 I grew up with little money, my parents worked hard. I feel that if I can help someone in need then I should. God will always take care of my needs I put my trust in him. It also makes me smile when I am able to put a smile on someone else's face. I just love to help. M-16 O-27 T-61 I-100 V-88 Helping others makes me happy because if others follow my example then the world will only improve. M-55 O-61 T-66 I-94 V-27 I am a highly empathetic person who not only derives joy by viewing joy as it is experienced by (and caused among) others, but also who derives pain from the pain sensed in others. I think the pros and cons are rather obvious, in that a highly sensitive temperament can suffer and rejoice at the hands of others' emotional states, which can easily be destructive to the empathetic individual, especially the submissive/poorly self-regulated type. Therefore, by actively attempting to manipulate others' emotional states in a way that affects the empathetic individual's own emotional experiences, the individual can in general tip the tables in favor of overall more prevalent/more intense states of joy/happiness than s/he would have been capable in experiencing solo. The practice of attempting to create joy in others can be the product of a socially submissive empathetic system, or it can be the result of a well-regulated empathetic system whose subject can use it to replace his/her own (naturally inferior/less happy) emotional state by deferring their mood to operate as a reflection of others moods. One possible reason behind this is that the subject may very well be s/he may very well be much better at interfering and improving others' moods than one's own. Simply put, if I can't make myself happy, I can at least be happy by making others happy and defer my emotional state to theirs. Or, if I can't sustain my own inner happiness around unhappy people, I need to improve their state of being to alleviate my own suffering at the hands of their suffering. Or, I can simply (selfishly) contribute to my own happiness by also making others around me more happy, which is a net gain from my lone state of happiness or even just a state of anxiety. Indirect-self-happiness-making would be my overall theory, though the reasons behind this can vary from deflection of other emotional states, to empathetic system submissiveness/disregulation, to cognizant emotional self-control through active social manipulation. M-55 O-77 T-100 I-83 V-61 My othercentric personality most likely comes from me not having any friends for most of my life. being a short northern boy in the south doesn't make you friends, it wasn't until about 4 years ago I made any. they saved me from many things, stopped me from suicide, and they're my family. however, I've always loved giving or helping children, but from the shadows of backstage or a planning room. lately, however, this othercentric side exploded and it became a major part of me in all parts of my life. I rarely even spend money on anything other than survival and other's happiness. M-33 O-66 T-61 I-83 V-50 I am constantly looking out for others, it pleases me to do good for others. I am a Christian and that's what we are all about. M-66 O-77 T-83 I-100 V-33 I guess I'm like this because I want to please everyone, it's the sense of achievement knowing that you've possibly made someone happy etc. as well as the way I was brought up, punished for doing bad things and rewarded for doing good and my experiences during education. Also if I offer help to people, I believe that they would do the same when I need it. I just like making people happy. Pros: - People will think you're nice - Well-liked - Feel good about yourself - Many acquaintances but few friends Cons: - Be taken advantage of - You work hard for something and someone else takes the credit - Doormat - Many acquaintances but few friends - Possible victim for bullies - Being over-helpful and end up worsening the situation itself M-33 O-61 T-88 I-83 V-50 I'm generally helpful due to beign raised like that. The most important values in life for me are to be honorable and fair to every person I meet. This doesn't mean I'd help on everything other people need, but when a situation presents itself and should I be in a position to help I will do it because I feel that helping others is the "right thing to do". This probably has something to do with the Lutheran way and the fact that helping others is perceived as an honorable deed in Finnish society. Most of the people are ignorant for other people unfortunate (as am I), but usually I tend to act if needed. How ever I must point out that my helpfulness is rarely given to total strangers unless the situation really demands it. For instance I feel no obligation to give money to charity or a beggar, I don't see any reason to help others if the situation is such that the person should be able to cope with it on his/her own. So I do not live under the ethical "Golden rule" Perhaps I'm mostly helpful due to the fact that I can then ask for favors when I really need them. Knowing that the person might feel like beign in my dept. Not an active way of thinking, but I can't dismiss the idea that the underlying reason might be that. Even though I try to convince myself it has something to do, with wanting to be a better person. M-94 O-72 T-44 I-83 V-55 If someone is suffering, it's hard for me to ignore because it just isn't right not to help someone when you are able. I was raised with special needs siblings. M-83 O-88 T-66 I-94 V-100 I care for my boyfriend of 9 years that has stage 4 cancer. If I take good enough care of him. I hope to keep him alive and cured. It is for love. I would do any thing to save his life. M-33 O-50 T-55 I-100 V-22 I like helping others because I find it easier to focus on other's problems rather than my own. Simple examples of this are: My kitchen is loaded with dirty dishes, but whatever, I'll get to it later; my friend's kitchen is in the same state, so I clean it. Their mess has no story, no reason or rhyme to me, it's simplistic in the fact that I no naught of its beginning. If my friend, sometimes even a stranger, needs something, it gives me an easy purpose. You need shoes? I have an extra pair, get the extra pair, give them to the shoeless, done. Problem solved. I like things to be done, I suppose. It's hard to say, "I will graduate in four years," then wait four years to see if that comes true. I will, but it's harder. I very much like the need, solution, fixed, over. It's not altruism, just an avoidance mechanism and easy/fast fix inclination. M-27 O-72 T-77 I-88 V-44 I feel for others because I am part of a bigger society than just what I want. I am more religious than most others but this is not necessarily why I am this way. But the important thing to note in this is the fact that I can become wealthy only through society's means. Basically, society allows for people to get what they get so it is important to me to give back to the society that helps me regardless of how I have been slighted. M-27 O-61 T-33 I-100 V-66 So about my high percentage with the Othercentric drive, and the question about how I like to help people... or rather why. I don't know, I've always been taught growing up to put others before myself. I dislike seeing anyone upset, and what makes me happier than anything is seeing others happy and knowing I helped them with that. Which sounds almost selfish in a way, like I want the honor of saying "I did that". But its more a quiet pride. I don't need a big announcement, I just need to know that they'd do the same for me. But people haven't always, and there's been a good amount of times I've been screwed over and used for my kindness. My good friends see it more than I do, they say "worry about yourself", because any problem I have becomes 100 times less important when someone else has a problem. Do I get people who won't do the same for me? Certainly, its happened many times. And am I hurt by it of course... but in a way, I hope my example will reflect on others, because there have been friends I made shocked at what I do that grow to become more selfless themselves. M-27 O-66 T-33 I-88 V-44 I am a Christian and a mother and proud to be both. Putting others before myself brings me joy. It is a reward without limits. I believe in community and that the furthering of each individual benefits all. If we all, like Jesus, put others before ourselves and concentrated on perfecting our gifts and using them to benefit the whole i believe we would see an end to many of our social ills. Just a theory... M-5 O-44 T-27 I-100 V-94 I think I am like that because I struggled with a heroin addiction for a long time, and now that I am sober I feel like i must give back to the world for all the wrong I have done to others. Pros: I love helping others and am very good at it, people can depend on me as someone to talk to. Cons: Sometimes i dedicate so much time to helping others that I forget about myself, i get worn out and don't get pleasure from helping anymore. M-5 O-100 T-88 I-100 V-66 I scored highest on helping people, and that is very true with me. I am a people pleaser and often get taken advantage of. I have had a lower self esteem in the past, and in my efforts to make people like me I became very kind. M-38 O-44 T-50 I-100 V-72 |
| *for a low score assume the opposite of the above. the descriptions listed here are made up of personality items. people who scored high on this type scored higher on the above items compared to the average. (more info on construction) |